December 31, 2013

This year has been a great one. It has been great in good ways and in bad.

In 2013...

1. I experienced the happiness of seeing my niece grow and turn 1!
2. I experienced the heartbreak of my marriage ending...
3. I landed on my own two feet and have made steps forward.
4. I have lived on my own successfully for over 7 months.
5. I have enjoyed my family this year and depended on them more than ever.
6. I created "Melissa Faye - The Blog" and soft launched my VA business.
7. I joined Mary Kay and actually sold some stuff.
8. I learned what love meant and sure as hell what it doesn't mean.
9. I received the good news that my sister, brother in law, and niece are moving closer to us.
10. I saw struggles being triumphed.
11. I made the decision that I control what makes me happy.
12. I learned that I am me and I shouldn't apologize for it.
13. I learned that my co-workers are some of my greatest friends.
14. I experienced the best of both worlds - married & single.

What was your year like?

CHEERS to 2014 and let's make it a damn good one!


December 30, 2013

Blogging has been one of my favorite past times since 2007. I had a very small blog, mainly a personal diary for a couple of years, then back in 2010 I decided to expand my blog into something more. I had a previous blog (before this one) that focused mainly on my personal life/married life/faith/recipes/etc. It was great, but since my life has changed so much I decided to go another direction.

This coming year I have decided to go another direction with my blog. I wouldn't say my blog will all of the sudden become more unique. I am not really pulling out all of the stops. I have decided to blog for the enjoyment and to blog about things that I care about. Blogging has become so much of what I thought it wouldn't. I honestly wasn't focused on making money on this blog (although that would be nice). I am not focused on getting that plaid scarf (although I do love it) and prancing around town taking photos of myself wearing it. I have decided to be who I am. I have tried those 'other blogger' things before and it just doesn't work.

I have a story and I have a voice and that is what matters. While I engage in social media, I am more concerned with creating authentic relationships with other bloggers/readers. I think that's important. Maybe someday I can sport an outfit that is worth taking several photos of. Maybe someday I will have a pinteresty wedding that I can post here and wow all of you single ladies (I really would too). For now, I just enjoy sharing bits and pieces of my life and what I think about this and that.

I love blogs that offer something visually as well as something original. I hope to offer that as well in some small way. While I would love to have content that is a bit more complex, this is just where I am right now. Feel free to follow along.

I may even have a new blog design in the next couple of months. It's all about simplifying in these parts.


December 25, 2013

Merry Christmas one and all! I hope your day is filled with laughter, great food, and good times with friends & family. We had our Christmas with my sister, brother-in-law and 19 month old niece yesterday. My niece doesn't quite grasp "Christmas morning", but next year we think she will be primed and ready for her first real "Santa came" experience. Above you'll see my Christmas day necessities complete with delicious treats (Cranberry Bliss Bar), "National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation", Christmas PJ's, and a cozy place to relax and take in the sites and sounds of Christmas. 

What are your plans? I hope its filled with a little relaxation after the kiddos rip open their packages!

Linking up with Kristin + Ashlyn for Four Favorites

#DoseofCharm Giveaway

December 23, 2013

Merry Christmas, friends! Some great ladies and I have joined with Amy from The Charming Blog to giveaway some seriously awesome items! Please follow and enter the giveaway below!

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December 20, 2013

The happiest holidays to you all! I will be taking a little break from blogging while I pack and prepare to spend time with my loved ones.

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December 16, 2013

I am not sure if its the looming Christmas season or just the influx of births happening in my world, but I have officially entered into baby fever. I see photos on Facebook of little ones dressed up by mommies and daddies and posing with Santa (although some look straight up terrified). I saw myself having that life by now, but God knows that He is preparing my heart for that very thing someday.

I feel almost strange admitting that I have baby fever as a single woman. I thought it only applied to married women (pure ignorance, I know). I have a beautiful niece whom I love and she is growing like a weed. I can only imagine the heartache a mother feels as she sees her tiny baby walking, talking, and feeding one self. I miss the bottle feeding and the burping. I miss the occasional stare that breaks into the most gut wrenching, puddle on the floor smile. I miss her look of wonder at everything from a TV to a light bulb. I also miss the ability to hold her without her squirming out of my arms.

Having experienced divorce doesn't kill this desire to be a mother. The thought once terrified me, but I am not ashamed to say that I was born to be a mother and someday, I will be one. I hope it passes quickly. I do not want to be on a date and then blurt out, "Hey, by the way nice shirt, and if you're interested in children I would like 5...um yesterday..." Yeah, I am pretty sure that wouldn't go over too well. The truth is, I just feel this crazy amount of love inside. I know its there, and I know its meant for my husband-to-be, heck family-to-be. It's there just brewing and growing and chiseling its way into my heart. I don't know if I am the only one that feels this way, but for now its comforting. Its letting me know that my heart isn't dead and its meant to love those people someday.

I pray that this feeling is directed to the right man at the right time. As a woman, I think God creates us to nurture people and things. I think we are given this unique ability to desire to build a family so we can do just that. I also believe that my ability to have a family didn't die with my failed marriage. Its very much alive and well.


December 11, 2013

Tree Top  |  Sled & Wreath | Christmas Tree | Garland
December is here, which means it's time for some Christmas decor inspiration. While perusing Pinterest I came across some unique and beautiful Christmas decor ideas. I do not have a lot of Christmas decor this year, but after Christmas I plan to hit Hobby Lobby, Target, anywhere and everywhere to stock up for next year. I am loving gold and striped bows this year. I will definitely be investing in a similar look for next year. I tend to gravitate towards the rustic look like the sled & wreath you see pictured. I also love the simplicity of a small tree adorned with a few ornaments and paper wrapped packages underneath. This year I wasn't able to put up any garland in my apartment, but I love the look. It seems to bring the outdoors in.

What are your Christmas decor favorites?

Linking up with Kristin + Ashlyn for Four Favorites. 


December 10, 2013

It's never easy to buy gifts for everyone in your family. Personally, I enjoy the idea of giving a bunch of small things that are useful, meaningful, or quirky. The items pictured above would please anyone in your bunch - picky or not. I am an avid user of the Mary Kay Cream Eye Color and use it as a primer under my eye shadow. It can also be worn alone for a subtle shimmer. The Mary Kay At Play Baked Eye Trio is perfect for someone who may not want to wear a lot of make up or want to clutter up their bathroom cabinet with different shades. The colors are perfect for the holiday season! Gift sets (like this one + this one) are perfect for those who may want to use several products over time. The Mint Bliss Energizing Lotion for legs + feet is seriously amazing. It feels great and the minty smell gives you a spa-like experience. Great for men and women! Lastly, the Mary Kay at Play Lip Crayon is a simple way to give color without it being overwhelmingly thick or sticky. This line is great for teenagers!

To order you can visit my personal website, Facebook page, or email
 Hurry to have your gifts arrive before Christmas!


December 9, 2013

I know that 2013 is still here, but it's winding down and considering the past year, I am ready to focus my mind on things to come. 2013 did not turn out how I pictured. In fact, it's ending a lot differently than I anticipated when 2012 was winding down. The truth is, I am a single gal therefore my goals for next year will be surrounded around someone new, ME.

When you're married your goals tend to be collective between the two of you. Things that were once about you no longer are. Well, now I am experiencing the opposite. Below you will see a list of things I DO plan on accomplishing. Seriously. There really are some good reasons behind them as well. Now, these might be all over the place so don't think one takes precedence over another. All of these items are important.

1. Focus more of my attention on Christ & others versus myself.
2. Do more of the things that inspire me.
3. Take care of myself physically by eating healthful foods, exercising regularly, and getting more consistent sleep.
4. Set a TO DO list of three to four things that are manageable everyday. Be sure that it includes at least one household chore.
5. Watch only three TV shows per week and focus more on reading. (No more 6 hour Netflix marathons).
6. Design a space in my apartment that showcases my interests and inspirations.
7. Learn one new skill per month: web design, crafting, sewing, Excel, and/or recipe.
8. Create a schedule that emphasizes productivity and not time wasters.
9. Settle into a church home both in Alabama and in Georgia (parents live in Georgia).
10. Meet bloggers in real life.
11. Try a new restaurant.
12. Go on an actual date and/or meet new people.
13. Do one kindness gesture at least once a month.
14. Have a party at my place. I am thinking wine tasting or casual cocktail party.

I think 14 is a good number for 2014. I tried not to overwhelm myself and I want to choose things that are realistic, productive, and enjoyable. I plan on enjoying this next year, so in order to do so I really need to start taking care of myself. All of the items above combine all of the elements that make a person healthy. I have spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional items that are good for the soul, body, and mind. I certainly don't want to let go just because I experienced something painful this year. Life must go on as they say.

The main push behind my physical health is 1, I want to feel better and 2, I have my 10 year high school reunion coming up next fall. I want to feel and look my best so I can rub it in everyone's faces. Kidding... But seriously. I also noticed a lot of time in my life is wasteful and could be better spent doing things I enjoy and that challenge me. I love me some Netflix, but if I am watching 4,5, or 6 hours at a time on the weekends, it's a little excessive. I mean once a month or so is fine, but no more than that. Now, as far as dating goes. We shall see. I haven't exactly stepped with both feet in on that one. We will have to see how the year pans out in that area. Meeting bloggers is another goal of mine because I think its so important to surround myself with people of similar interests. If you are in AL or GA, please email me (melissafayeblog (at) gmail (dot) com). I would love to set something up! Trying new things such as a new skill or hobby is really good for being productive while being challenged. I don't really know if I am crafty per say, but I am willing to take a whack at it.

What about you? Have you already set out to achieve some things next year?


December 4, 2013

I actually really love Winter. It's so cozy and beautiful, especially if there is snow. Not an enormous amount of snow, but just enough to stick. Down here in the south we don't experience a whole lot of snow, which is why I pin so many winter time pins. Today I am linking up with Fancy Things + Let it Be Beautiful for Four Favorites. Link up and join in!

+to see all of the above links, please check out my Winter pinterest board!


December 2, 2013

I am still recovering from my long Thanksgiving break (5 days?!) and I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving as well. I must say Thanksgiving pales in comparison to Christmas, but spending time with family is always a great thing! I spent my time eating, relaxing, and catching up on my favorite shows. I even braved the TJ Maxx of a very small town for some kinda sorta Black Friday shopping. I didn't really get anything, but browsing was nice. All of the stores are decorated for Christmas, and there is just something so cozy about Christmas decor, dontcha think?

I put up my humble little tree last night and I have to say I am pretty proud of it. It leans slightly and is missing a tree skirt, but its all mine and I think it's cute. That little Chalkboard tree ornament I made in the 1st grade. Adorbs, right?

How was your Thanksgiving? Do you have your tree up yet?


November 26, 2013

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Christmas is an enchanting time. I have always enjoyed the holidays, but this year things will look a little different. Maybe not to the naked eye, but in my heart. The holidays have always been about things to me. As much as I hate to admit it, Christmas has had a selfish place in my heart. In the past I was always concerned with getting the next new gadget or clothing item. I made it a point to indulge in all things holiday related. This year, I want to get back to the basics with Christmas. It is a time to reflect on Jesus' birth, family, togetherness, giving, and gratitude. I don't really need anything, so why is my heart filled with so much empty longing for stuff? Why do I ignore what I have and desire only what I don't? Don't get me wrong, giving gifts that are thoughtful and meaningful are completely okay. I am just talking about the wanting (and expectation) of "things" that aren't needed, and how it can hinder the true meaning of Christmas. (Please give to your family and friends. I am not saying not to).

This year I am hoping to rid myself of the selfish desires I have had in the past. The holidays really aren't about "things" although that is what society tries to convince us of. We have to remember that although that iPad is a nice gift, in the end you can't take it with you. Memories, love, and togetherness is what matters.

What about you? Are you going to be starting new traditions that don't include tangible gifts?


November 25, 2013

I am not a big proponent of Black Friday, but I say if you can do it from home and not have to venture out, go for it!

As you may or may not know I am a Mary Kay Independent Beauty Consultant, and I am offering a Black Friday Sale this coming Friday (Nov. 29) starting at 6 a.m. There will be a 10% discount on all orders (excluding the items listed below) until 11 p.m., and free shipping on orders of $50 or more! To get your 10% discount you may place an order on my site (www.marykay.com/mbarrett7150). Be sure to add coupon code BLACKFRIDAY in the notes section of your order.

The items below will be offered at a deeper discount. These items are in stock and can ship immediately! A surprise discount between 15% and 30% will be offered on November 29 starting at 6 a.m. The earlier you shop the more you save! You will receive the discount upon processing of payment.
(prices below do not include SURPRISE discount or taxes + shipping).

Mary Kay TimeWise Age Fighting Moisturizer (Normal to Dry Skin): $24
Mary Kay TimeWise 3-in-1 Cleansing Bar (Normal, Combination, & Oily Skin): $20
Mary Kay Lash Love Lengthening Mascara (I Love Brown): $15
Mary Kay Cream & Sugar Lipgloss: $14
Mary Kay Subtle Tanning Lotion: $17
I have two Botanicals Sets (cleanse, hydrate, freshen) for Normal/Sensitive and Dry/Sensitive Skin: $44 

In order to receive the SURPRISE discount you will need to place an order by email at mbarrett7150@marykay.com or Facebook. I will also be available for any questions you may have about products! 

Have a very Happy Thanksgiving and I will see you bright and early Friday morning! 


November 23, 2013

When I get the chance to love again...

1. I will not take it for granted. I think love is a special thing and it doesn't come around everyday. That special person will be in my life at the right time and I don't want to mess it up by taking it for granted.

2. I will understand where they came from. Everyone has a past and everyone has a story. The best part of being in a relationship is learning something new everyday. I never want to stop learning.

3. I will be their "best friend". As cheesy as it sounds, friendship is an important part of a relationship and/or marriage. If you can't be friends, how can you be anything else?

4. I will forgive. Forgiveness is hard, especially after getting burned a few times. Even when its hard, and even when I am hurt, I will give them a second chance. But if it turns into third, fourth, or fifth chances, maybe its time to reevaluate.

5. I will listen more and talk less. Listening can be a powerful tool and should be used often. With listening comes understanding and productive conversation. No one can say how they feel, what they want, or what they need if both parties are always talking and not listening.

6. Take my time. My first marriage was a whirlwind and while the notion is romantic, it's not always realistic. Don't get me wrong, my parents met and married quickly and are still married to this day, but next time I won't rush. Refer to #3. Friends first.

7. Play. Laugh. Smile. Enjoy. I think two people in a relationship should enjoy each other, and that's always been my goal. In life bills pile up, work becomes stressful, and drama happens, but I think a relationship should be a place of solitude when life gets tough. You can never laugh, play, smile, or enjoy your partner too much.

8. Learn new things. I think doing adventurous and new things is a must in a relationship. Life can become a routine, but its nice to spice things up a bit. Taking a cooking class, going to a new city, learning a new hobby are all great ways to learn something new and ignite new conversations. I think this will become a point in my next relationship.

9. Chill out. I can be quite intense, even when I don't try to be. It's good to be with someone who is a bit more laid back with a go-with-the-flow mentality. One of my goals is to learn to relax. Life will happen no matter what and little things will come up that I simply can't control. It's important to take time out and just get back to what's important. I am sure my partner would appreciate this.

10. Keep it healthy. Relationships are to be based on health. If a relationship causes you to struggle or completely "let go" in areas of your life, it may be time to re-evaluate. During my marriage things that were once important in regard to my health were simply ignored. Other things and stresses became more important, and I forgot to balance out my mental, emotional, and physical health. When both partners are healthy and pursuing health together, the relationship in turn becomes healthier. It's science.

What are your most important relationship rules or tips?


November 21, 2013

I don't normally create "Christmas Lists" so to speak, but this year I wanted to see how far I could stretch my Pinterest organization skills. These items were chosen for my eyes only, but I thought I might as well share. What's the point of a blog after all?

 You can see the source of all images by going to my Pinterest board {w i s h l i s t}.

 What is on your wishlist this year?


November 18, 2013

Today I am in the mood to get real. Really real. If this isn't the kind of stuff you like to read, please move onto the next blog. It's going to get cah-razy.

Well not so much, but I do feel like I have some things to get off of my chest. Again, I didn't want to make this blog all about my failed marriage, but I feel like some wisdom has come from my experience. I think those who have experienced divorce know a thing or two about marriage.

I was thinking the other night about relationships and I have been reading articles about marriage, and things that I want to remember for the next time (I hope there's a next time). One thing that stuck out to me was when my ex-husband said, "You know...I am a really good friend, but I am not a good husband..." Wow. That spoke so much in so few words.

My first reaction to this was sadness. I thought to myself, "Why does it have to be either friend or husband? Aren't both equally important"? Isn't friendship one of the most important aspects of a good, healthy marriage? I think it is. My second reaction was utter anger. I felt angry because I hadn't seen this "good friend" in quite some time. I hadn't felt like I was living with a good friend, let alone married to one. Good friends are honest, thoughtful, caring, and self-less. These are the qualities I think of when I think of a good friend. These are qualities I would hope my friends would say about me.

I don't in any way want to say that my husband was a bad person. To me, good people do bad things and vice versa. I do want to say that for the most part, good friends are good wives and good husbands- if they choose to be. Here's a quote from an article I read online and it really struck home with me...

"BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier." Read article here.

This speaks volumes when it comes to marital friendship. Friends laugh, do fun things together, and enjoy each other. Last I checked, friendship wasn't all work and no play. Friends make things light and I think your spouse should be able to do that also! As it says, "Don't take yourself so damn seriously." I 100% agree.


November 15, 2013

Hey everyone. Sorry it's been so long since I have blogged. I have been busy and kind of enjoying the break and time to get my life settled. I have moved into my new apartment and things are great! I will update you more about that, but here's a little fall Friday inspiration.

Have a great weekend!


November 1, 2013

Well, it's a little rainy in these parts today friends. This is the start of a wonderful weekend though. I am moving (once again) and I am thankful for mid 60s temps and sunny weather heading my way. Did I mention I am moving? For the 6th time in three years? Yeah, I am kind of over moving. Luckily, I am moving to a smaller unit in the same complex so it shouldn't be that bad. Every time I move I get a little sad. This time is a little different because I will be making the move alone for the first time. It's bittersweet to be honest. I am glad to be moving out of the last place I lived married, but I am nervous to be leaving what I've known only as a married woman. Divorce brings about all kinds of changes, which tends to bring up some anxiety.

I have been trying to focus only on the positive lately because I want to embrace this new chapter. I want to make this little apartment my own and enjoy a bit of stability. I am honestly so thankful that I have made it this far. If I knew it would be this "easy", I wouldn't have worried so much in the beginning. It's not easy emotionally or mentally, but I really thought I would struggle much more than I have. Albeit I have my moments. I have moments when I think of the holidays coming up and how I won't be experiencing them married. I have moments when I see a newborn baby being coddled in public by it's young parents. I thought by now I would have children, a family, a solid marriage, but I don't. These are things I have to learn to accept everyday.

I don't get jealous of those who have those things, but every life expectation I've had the last three years or so has been shattered. I can't explain the pain unless you've experienced it yourself. It's a different kind of loss. I tried not to make this blog about my experiences as a divorcee, but I have to be honest in saying that this is where my life is right now. I hope to bring some comfort to those who may feel the same way I do, and encourage others to be grateful for what they have. Too much of our lives are spent taking life for granted. I hope to never do so again.

I don't want to end this post on a low note, but maybe it's the rain lulling my brain to sleep. Either way, I will be moving for the next three days and I will be back soon to share some pictures of the place all dolled up!

Happy Friday!


October 23, 2013

I think in times of stress or sadness, the only true remedy is some good Bible and prayer time. I have to admit that I am not the most disciplined when it comes to my very broken and messy relationship with Christ. I have to be constantly reminded that even in the storm, the only calm and sanctuary I can hold onto is the Lord. I am currently reading Job. I feel like in this time of my life I can somewhat relate to Job. I don't think I am in the same shape he was at that time (thank God), but I feel like so much has been lost this year. I really want to get back to a place where I can find satisfaction and contentment once again in my relationship with Jesus. Even when I have wanted to throw my faith out the window I just can't seem to let go of my first love. I can't seem to shake the hold He has on my life. Isn't it amazing that even when we seem to give up on Jesus, He never does? He has been here all along. I am not deserving, but to Him it doesn't matter.

I think in these faith crises in life, we have to accept that at times our faith will be shaken. When things rock you to your core you can't help but look at God and ask "Why?".  I have asked several times why I have been given the circumstances I have in life, but the truth is, I don't know and I may never know. I have to admit that I am human, I am broken, and I need help.

I would love to hear from any of you who have gone through something similar. 
I think it helps to hear from others who have been going through tough times.


October 22, 2013

Dating. Relationships. Marriage.  

As a teenager I was taught from all of the angles about dating, relationships, and marriage. The truth is, I have had my fair share of dating blunders and busts. Most of which I regret. I acted selfishly, stubbornly, impulsively, and thought very little about how that would impact my future married life. I have always dated with marriage as my end game. That can be both a good and bad thing. It's good because it can give dating a purpose. It's bad because it puts unnecessary pressure on a couple. Not every dating couple is meant to be married. Does this mean all dating outside of the person you marry is pointless? No. But it can be detrimental to your future husband or wife (I say wife for all the guys who read this...None? Okay).
Now, I can only speak for my own dating experience. Shockingly, my dating journey is starting over. I am now dating as an adult. But what the heck does that mean? Does any of what I learned as a teenager apply now? I hope so. It's really all I have to go off now.

The Bible does not speak of dating. It does not offer a 'Ten Commandments for Non-Married People'. During the Biblical days, dating didn't exist yet. Marriages were arranged. Marriages also occurred between family members. Yuck. Now, there are more options than ever. You can literally walk into a coffee shop and meet the love of your life. You can also go online and you're among millions on various dating sites. How does one navigate through this giant world full of members of the opposite sex? How does one deal with the new-found pressures of dating?
As a teenage girl I was told, "boys call, boys pick girls up, and boys pay"...But now, you could be asked out by a guy and you really aren't sure if he just asked you on a date or not...The lines are now blurred between potential friend and date. It's confusing. It's frustrating. I am more of an old-fashioned girl when it comes to dating. I do not just randomly give my number to a guy (okay, once). I do not just ask a guy out that I find attractive. I also do not call a guy first (maybe a few times). Is this sounding very "He Just Not That Into You" right now? Maybe I should watch that movie again...
"Oh Jenny. Oh, Jenny, Jenny, Jenny. Oh, my Jenny. Wait, what number did I just call?"
I say all of that to say this. I have no idea what I am doing anymore. I don't think I have ever really known come to think of it. Am I alone here? I am not saying I am looking for a relationship right now, but I think it's important that I set some boundaries now for when the time comes. I definitely want to preserve as much of my heart as I can, while I still have some left. Dating can bring about all kinds of complications. The best thing for me is to have things be as simple as possible. Please tell me things are still simple out there...

If not, I am staying single forever. Okay, maybe not forever.


October 21, 2013

I usually try and take it easy during the weekends. This weekend was no exception. I literally stayed in my pajamas all day watching movies, a little football, eating goodies, and planning my week (read: month) ahead. I tried Pillsbury's Gluten Free Cookie Dough. It tasted just like the gluten filled stuff, so that's a win in my book. I also was able to enjoy cooler weather and break out a scarf without having to deal with the mid-day sweat fest. I think Fall has officially hit the South, so I am excited! Just in time for Halloween in a couple of weeks! I also made some amaze-balls French toast on Saturday morning. I added brown sugar and nutmeg to the batter, which was divine. Also, add lots and lots of coffee and you have the perfect weekend!

how was your weekend? 

+follow me on Instagram to see all of my pics from the weekend. 


October 20, 2013

Tortoise Shell Necklace // Karin Pendant Necklace // Kate Earrings // Isabella Earrings // Mix & Match Metro Grand
I have been looking for pieces to round out my jewelry collection. I used to purchase jewelry all the time, but since I have gotten older I am a bit more choosy when it comes to choosing jewelry. I tend to gravitate towards more classic pieces that I can mix and match with several outfits. Kate Spade has some great pieces (obviously), and I included some from my own jewelry boutique.

What are your favorite jewelry pieces?


October 19, 2013

Slouchy Sweater Pant  // Polka Dot Cardigan  // Women's Suede Sherpa Moccasin  // Women's Jersey Tee Hoodies // Women's Lounge Pants

I love weekends. I love watching movies, cooking, cleaning, relaxing, blogging, etc. What are your favorite weekend plans?


October 17, 2013

Sorry I have been MIA the past week or so. I have had so many things going on and a lot of decisions to make. As most of you know I was divorced this past summer which has brought on along of personal and life changes. I have been living on my own (for a lot longer than I thought I could) and I am now coming to a crossroads. Where I live right now, there isn't a lot of family or close friends nearby. I feel lonely a lot, not by choice, but by default. I went from married to single and living alone can be a little lonely. I enjoyed cooking and cleaning and living for 2. Now that I do it for 1, it's just a little hard to get used to.

My apartment lease is up soon so I have had to make the choice of where to live. I think I have a good prospect opening up, which gives me more freedom ( and saves me a lot of money). I will look at it tonight and let you all know what I think. I don't know if it will be a permanent solution, but it helps for the time being.

I still visit my parents in Georgia on the weekends. It's a long drive, but it gives me a little break from reality. They live on a lake, which is relaxing, and like where I live now it's a slower pace country setting. I always thought of myself as a city girl, but I get REALLY angry in even the slightest bit of traffic now. I think the 10 minute commute to work everyday has made me a little spoiled. I think I enjoy the small town life for sure.

Other than that, I haven't had much to blog about. I don't feel pressured now to write if I don't feel inspired to, which is kind of nice. Whenever the feeling hits, I write a post and hit publish. I think blogging should be more like that...

Anyone else have any news they'd like to share? I am ALL ears.


October 10, 2013

With blogging there has definitely been a transformation from when I first started to where I am today. When I first starting blogging, I only wrote posts. There may have been a photo included here and there, but the main drive behind the blog was my content. I am striving to keep that portion of blogging alive on this blog, but people are inspired by what they see. Visual stimulation is important within the arena of social media.

I have seen some major trends come to life in the blogging community.

Now, blogs have become more aesthetically pleasing to the eye. I for one enjoy looking at beautiful photos while I read blog content. I want to see what you are saying come to life. Now more than ever, with the help of Pinterest, photos become a road map of the blogging journey. I will see hundreds of photos related to blogs and blog content. It's amazing to me how we bloggers can still come up with words to write and pictures to post. You would think by now, I would be reading and writing the same posts over and over. With blogging, every blog and blogger is unique. My story looks like no one else's story and vice versa.
I have tried really hard to get involved more with social media. I use Facebook and Pinterest more than any other social media outlet, mainly because Twitter overwhelms me too much. I think I may follow too many people. I get lost in the shuffle and can't seem to integrate myself into the conversation.

Blogging for a purpose has become so prevalent these past few years. Bloggers have been helping others in some amazing ways. I think bloggers have such an influence in our culture. With the flux of our nation's government I have seen bloggers take significant stances when it comes to debt, spending, healthcare, etc. Our world is constantly changing, but bloggers have remained informed and positive. I love reading blogs that uplift, while still remaining truthful. Faith-based blogs have immensely helped me during the last few months. It's what we do in bloggy-land. We help others. Not ever blogger is a vain, self-centered, narcissist. Some actually care about others!
Collaboration is HUGE in blogging. From brands to products, bloggers have great influence on what we buy and sell. I have seen an increase in the number of product reviews the past year or so. I like them, but not every post or every day. I tend to read the ones that interest me, and scroll onward when I see the ones that don't. I think advertising is changing as well. Prankvertising is getting a lot of attention in the media, and I think blogvertising is heading on up as well! Mom bloggers, beauty bloggers, and fashion bloggers are being saturated with brand and product collaborations. They are the items that we buy and use. This is where our world is headed. Rather than commercials -- let's talk about how you use and like the product. Genius.


October 9, 2013

living room | white pumpkins | fireplace | tablescape
I love Fall and all that it brings. If I could have it my way, it would be fall year-round. With Fall also comes some redecorating. Above are my favorites to transform a room or rooms. Comfy blankets, white pumpkins, candles, and a fall tablescape complete the looks I love!

What are your Fall decor favorites?
Linking up with Kristin + Ashlyn for Four Favorites.


October 3, 2013

I love TV in the fall. They start mid-September and I spend my crisp fall nights curled up laughing and/or crying. My taste in TV has evolved over the past few years, but my faves are quirky comedies and tween dramas. Yes, I am an adult. You just can't tell by the shows I watch.

New Girl: How about Jess & Nick?! Couple of the year, right? I am so absolutely enthralled these two are finally together. I cannot wait to watch the rest of the season to see how it all unfolds.  
Best part about the show? The quick-witted humor.
Parks & Recreation: I did not start watching Parks until a few months ago on Netflix. Let's just say I got through all of the seasons in about two weeks. So funny and addicting.
Best part about the show? Andy and April, hands-down!
Super Fun Night: Rebel Wilson is so funny and her confidence seems to soar when she is on the screen. Although she's playing a wall-flower, homebody on the show, her outrageousness is sure to shine.
Best part about the show? Her inappropriate jokes, I am sure!
Pretty Little Liars (aka PLL): Although the next season isn't starting until January, the Halloween Special airs October 22 on ABC Family at 8 p.m. I am so excited to be getting my PLL fix and hopefully we will have some answers about A and Alison.
Best part about the show? The mystery and hot guys (who are of age, by the way).
Ravenswood: I am looking forward to the mystery of Ravenswood. It's a PLL spinoff which means there are sure to be some twists and turns. Tyler Blackburn (Caleb) has been casts and I am so excited to see this character come to life.
Best part about the show? Knowing more about this weirdo town.
Grey's Anatomy: Grey's has certainly brought the drama these past few seasons. Bombs, miscarriages, shootings, accidents, plane crashes. I had to take a little break from it because everyone and their mom seemed to be dying or dead on the show. Plus, the plot to always end the season with a tragedy was getting kind of old. I hope to be caught up before tomorrow night so I can keep watching to see what happens...
Best part of the show? The couples and all of their drama! 

There are several other shows I will continue to watch such as, The Mindy Project, Revenge, Scandal, Nashville, and Modern Family. The ones above are just my absolute faves. I am also planning to start Breaking Bad on Netflix. What do you think? Does the show live up to its hype?

What are your favorite TV shows this season?


October 2, 2013

I am loving the fall line at J.Crew. Their prices can be quite steep, but the quality of the clothing and accessories almost makes up for the major loss in your bank account. I mean, a $500 scarf, maybe not, but a girl can dream. I think classics are always a staple in my wardrobe, and this fall is no exception. I am loving the retro glasses. The thick frames are modern, yet have a vintage vibe, which is the perfect combo! Silver penny loafers, must I say more? Stripes are always acceptable, as are scarves. Handwoven scarves from anywhere are so comfy and soft on those cold days. The items above are found or collected items that are found all over the world, but you can find some derivative of these items at your favorite store.

Linking up with Kristin + Ashlyn for Four Favorites.


September 29, 2013

source: Melissa's Merchandise
I love scarves. Since fall is nearing closer, I thought I would share a few from my online boutique. If you love scarves, check out my boutique for this year's latest trends. There are even a couple of scarves with studded skulls on them. So cute! Be sure to register as my customer for a chance to win $25 in free jewelry or accessories. I plan on randomly choosing a registered customer in the next couple of weeks. More to come!

What are your favorites scarves from my boutique?


September 28, 2013

1 pk. Simple Truth Chicken Tenders
1 Tbsp of extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil 
1 medium red onion
1 red or yellow bell pepper
1 tsp red pepper flakes
handful of Bella mushrooms
1 tsp Mrs. Dash Southwest Chipotle Seasoning
1 tsp pepper
1/2 tsp salt
1 clove of garlic minced 
juice of 1 lime
Your favorite fajita toppings
flour/corn tortillas

Open the package of Simple Truth Chicken Tenders and cut into 1" cubes. Place the oil in a saute pan and set burner to medium high heat. Once the oil is heated place the tenders gently in the pan. Add the garlic and sprinkle1/2 tsp of the red pepper flakes and Mrs. Dash evenly over one side of the chicken. While the chicken browns cut the vegetables into strips and set aside until ready to use. Turn the chicken pieces over and season with the remaining red pepper flakes and Mrs. Dash to fully coat the chicken and maximize flavor. Once the chicken is nearly cooked through (about 7 minutes) place the strips of onion and bell pepper and mushrooms into the pan. Add salt and pepper and stir the ingredients to incorporate the flavors together. Once the chicken is tender and white throughout and the veggies are slightly browned remove from heat. Add the juice of 1 lime over all of the ingredients and do one final stir. Serve immediately with or without warm tortillas and other toppings. Makes about 5 to 6 small fajitas.

-Enjoy with a margarita and some tortilla chips and you have yourself one awesome fiesta! 

Try out this recipe and let me know what you think!


September 26, 2013


September 25, 2013

Here are my four favorites for fall.
photo // sweater // tunic (not original source) // Starbucks
I think that crunchy leaves are one of the more beautiful parts of fall, along with the crisp air. I am a sucker for the studded sweaters and I love the flowy comfort of a tunic. Both items can be worn with skinny jeans and boots, or leggings and boots. And Starbucks lattes? Need I say more. Make mine a grande, non-fat, pumpkin spice, please.

What do you love about fall? 
Linking up with Ashlyn + Kristin for Four Favorites.


September 20, 2013

Lyrics by Taylor Swift
Despite what others think I am not one to go with the crowd. Not that I want to completely rebel, but I just have my own way of doing things. I know that people tend to gravitate towards what is cool and pretty. I have to reign it in sometimes too. I see what others have and lose my mind trying to find a way to have it too. I have to remember to be content what what I have and who I am.

Do you struggle with being content? How do you handle it?


September 19, 2013

source: Lauren Conrad
Making : memories
Cooking : healthy meals. this weight is coming off if it kills me!
Drinking : lots of water, tea, and coffee (PSL's too)
Reading: news on my iPad
Wanting: a new phone. #firstworldproblems
Looking: for love and faith
Playing: music. constant music.
Wasting: time every night pinning
Sewing: heart strings
Wishing: for a fall wardrobe
Enjoying: time with family when I can
Waiting: on the great things to come
Liking: gold; lots of gold everything
Wondering: when I can take a vacation
Loving: this top 
Hoping: things will begin to calm down soon
Marvelling: God's unfailing grace and mercy. much needed lately
Needing: a hug most days
Smelling: fall candles are already burning
Wearing: flats and cropped pants
Following: blogs. always.
Noticing: how the temperatures are cooler in the morning. Yay!
Knowing: I will be okay
Thinking: I have so much to be thankful for
Feeling: frustrated, happy, sad, angry, all of the above right now
Bookmarking: this blog 
Opening: my heart
Giggling: watching "Along Came Polly". I forgot how funny that movie is. New Girl//Mindy Project//2 Broke Girls. Basically, TV shows.

Found this blog and wanted to join in.


September 18, 2013

Top // Loafers // Necklace // Skirt
Black & White is such a classic look. I think that the contrast is simple, but elegant. I am actually thinking of redoing my bedroom in black & white very soon. Of course, I love wearing black and white and I think this trend will be around for many more generations. 

Do you like the black and white trend? 

Linking up with Kristin + Ashlyn for Four Favorites.