January 28, 2014
I have been feeling so convicted lately. Blogging can be rather self-serving and I know that I am not that interesting, so I have been wanting to make a few changes.
Here are some things that I have been observing and what emotions have been popping up the last couple of months.
01. When bloggers Instagram their super cute (somewhat pricy) outfits, I feel inadequate. First of all, I have not shopped in months and although I would love their wardrobe, its just not in my budget right now.
Tip: Don't follow these bloggers anymore. Yes, they are not telling me to be like them or buy clothes, but the temptation is too great. I have to realize that I am not a fashion blogger and I don't have that kind of budget. They look super cute, but it serves me no purpose to see it.
02. When bloggers talk about becoming a full-time blogger I have to understand that this is not my career. I have a full time job that pays my bills, and it ain't blogging.
Tip: Be happy for them (or don't) and move on. I will never be a full-time blogger and although I enjoy it, I can't give up my job right now to pursue it. I would be homeless in a week.
03. When mommy bloggers talk about how hard motherhood is.
Tip: You're not a mother so you don't know. Accept that it's the hardest job in the world and pray they get 5 minutes to themselves to pee in private and take a shower. Isn't that what all mothers want?
04. When bloggers talk about spending less money and they buy a whole new wardrobe.
Tip: So, where are you spending less money? Never mind, none of my business. Except that you put it on your blog that you'll spend less money and then you buy more things. So? Yeah, never mind I can't.
05. When bloggers give marriage advice after being married for three months.
Tip: Just quote Miranda from Sex and the City movie: "Yeah, its all so hot three days in"…And moving on.
06. When bloggers post product review after product review after product review after product review after product review.
Tip: So, they like products apparently. How much do they get paid to say that? Do they do anything else or just try products all day? How could they try that product? It's for horses. They don't have any horses, do they? Why would I try that? That's a stupid product. I think I should read something else. Wait, I can't pay that much for a hair dryer. Is she cray? She's cray.
07. When bloggers post "messy" photos and it's literally the cleanest mess I have ever seen.
Tip: No one places paper clips perfectly on top of a notebook and calls it a mess. When I do that I say I just tidied up. Why take a photo of your "mess" and make the rest of us feel bad? Am I a complete slob? My messy office has a peeled orange in it too, but not perfectly peeled on top of my keyboard. Who does she think she is? Just appreciate the gesture and move on. They tried to make a point, and it didn't work.
08. When bloggers say they may be an alcoholic…
Tip: I'm not saying drinking wine every night makes you an alcoholic. I'm not saying it doesn't either. If you say that all in good fun, it could really hurt someone who is reading who is an alcoholic. It's not funny it is just sad. If you think you are, talk to someone you trust and don't post it. If you don't think you are, don't post it. Idiot.
09. When bloggers think they are celebrities.
Tip: You're not famous. You may be in blogging world, but you're not a legit celebrity. My question is, why would you want to be? And if someone recognizes you because of your blog, do you have to share it with everyone? Yes, it can be a funny story if you spin it that way, but just saying someone recognized you is not cool, it's creepy. We are bloggers - not movie stars, not musicians, not models. BLAH - GERS. Let's keep it that way.
10. When bloggers get really sarcastic.
Tip: Read this post and share with your friends. They will die. Or maybe they won't. Maybe no one will get it…But at least you tried. Wait, I am talking about myself right now too. So, sarcasm is funny and can definitely make for a great post. But is that all you have to offer? Is that all there is? If so, I will be reading once a month to get my dose and that's it. There's only so much irony I can take.
11. When bloggers write books.
Tip: It can be great or it can be a disaster. Either way, I don't really need to pay you money to learn how you made so much money blogging. You're you and I am me. All I am doing is contributing to the idea of making you money blogging. I don't think people have caught on yet, so good for you. Maybe they will soon.
Blogging can be so self-centered. I get it. It's part of the territory, but it can almost be considered self-worship. Are we all so caught up and pleased with ourselves, that it's all we focus on? I have to work on being less me-focused and be more others-focused. I used all of the examples above to make a point that we are just people. We have families, jobs, hopes, dreams, aspirations, and talents. But are we only using them for our own advantage or to the advantage of others?
Just think about it and get back to me.