October 21, 2016

So, you want to know more about online dating, huh? View this video below to learn more about one of the most popular dating apps, Tinder.

So, as you can gather, even celebrities like Chelsea Handler use Tinder. Who knew? First of all, before we move forward, why would Chelsea of all people need Tinder? She is rich, funny, very pretty, and successful. Let’s just say if she is on Tinder, it can’t be all that bad, right?

Let me be clear. I do not condone one night stands. What I am referring to, is online dating for the intention to create a relationship. Now, if it never happens for me, that is fine. I have done my part. If online dating apps are what you use to get a little somethin’ somethin’, then this post will probably bore the pants off of you. Pun intended (winky face).

Online dating sites such as Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, and others are there for a purpose - to connect you with others. How meaningful that connection is, is up to you, and that other person. Here are some statistics that were provided on a website called, This website reviewed and researched several online dating sites, including Match, eHarmony, and OKCupid. If you want to learn more go to,

1. eHarmony is the most expensive online dating subscription at $40 per month.
2. and eHarmony have very close success rates in creating long-term relationships or marriages. eHarmony beat Match by 0.7 of a percentage point.
3. When it comes to algorithms and successful matches, OKCupid was rated the best. There were more connections made such as matches and more meaningful connections made using the message portion of the site.
4. There are three categories of messages - Good, Bad, and Mediocre. The percentage of good messages over bad were better on sites such as OKCupid and Match. The remainder of messages were mediocre, non-specific, and seemed to originate from spam or bots.
5. There are significant differences in the types of connections made on dating sites versus dating apps. Dating apps tend to be free, cultivate a “hookup culture”, and generally put men in the drivers seat. Apps such as Bumble, Coffee and Bagel, and Hinge are working to reverse that culture, and Hinge is considering starting a paid subscription for serious daters only.

So, here is some background info.

Good, Bad, and Mediocre Messages (from

Bad Messages:
  • Spam or scam
  • Harassing or threatening
  • Obscene
  • Extremely short, “Hi beautiful”
  • Generic copy & paste: “I found your profile interesting”
  • A neg: “I like your big nose”
  • From someone who acknowledges their out of your age range, but decides to message you anyway
  • Passive-aggressive or guilt trip: “I know you probably won’t respond, but I had to message you anyway”
  • Obviously from a bot because it’s so generic and comes from a sparse profile
Mediocre Messages: 
  • Suggestive, but not outright obscene
  • Only talks about your physical appearance
  • Impersonal, but only starts conversations with “Any plans for the weekend?”
  • An attempt to be personal, but falls flat: “I see you like playing scrabble. I like mountain biking.”
Good Messages:
  • Highlights something you both have in common
  • Respectful
  • Asks about something specific about your profile
  • Talks about things that are specific to your profile, but doesn’t only talk about physical appearance
  • No glaring spelling or grammar errors
  • Funny
When it comes to dating sites, here are the main factors: 
  • Usability of the site. Is it easy to use, or too buggy (referring to site bugs)? 
  • Cost isn’t everything, but price point does matter.  Is the paid subscription costly, or does it match what you can contribute on a month-by-month, or multi-monthly basis?
  • Intuitiveness of the site. Does the site understand what you’re looking for? Is it realistic to use?
When it comes to online dating, you want the site to work for you, but there is work associated with online dating as well. For example, the more messages, likes, winks, or specific connections you make with others, the more successful your experience will be. Match encourages users to send an average of 4 messages per day. Granted, they all must be good messages (see above), they need to be with other users whom you have things in common with, and you need to be sure that you are sending messages to a paid subscriber. If the user him or herself claims up front that they are not a paid subscriber, I wouldn’t even waste your breath, or your fingers typing on your keyboard.

I think for the most part, online dating can be useful, and it has been shown to be successful. Time will tell about how successful those marriages are, after all, marriages are meant to last till death to us part. I know several couples who met online, and one recently married who actually met on Tinder. Go figure? 

If you are in the market to try online dating, I suggest doing your research, find what works and doesn’t work, and don’t be afraid to take some risks. Every site comes with it’s own risk, successes, and failures. 

Here are some tips to stay safe, but also to enjoy your online dating experience!
  • Never give out your home address, work address, or specific contact information while messaging another user. 
  • Never give financial information to another user. 
  • If another user asks for money, immediately stop communicating and block this person from contacting you. 
  • Do not respond to message that seem vague or spammy.
  • Do not meet with the other user in a secluded, personal, or private place. Always arrange to meet in a public place. 
  • While exchanging your personal phone number is a next step after messaging another user for a while, you can use the paid phone subscription service on the dating site, or you can create a burner number that can be disconnected if things don’t work out. I suggest an app that creates a phone number for you, but isn’t your actual number.
  • Do not respond to messages that are vulgar, offensive, or obscene. Chances are, they are a creep, or are spam. No need to waste your time.
  • If another user makes you feel uncomfortable or attempts to contact you after being told you are not interested, block the user or report the user to the site administrative staff. 
I hope this information and these tips are helpful. Online dating can be very rewarding, as long as you use your head. Again, for more information and reviews, visit 

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